Asperger's Syndrome

[wleighp]

I have an 11, soon to be 12 year old stepson who wets himself several times a day. He says he lets a little bit out so that he won't have to get up and go to the bathroom. He was sitting and watching t.v. for hours or playing video games all the time while at mine and his dad's house. He confesses that he watches tv all day long at his mothers and wets himself there too. He wets himself at school as well. Needless to say, he is obese, lathargic and even if he has just gone to the bathroom, he still wets himself. I stepped in, in the beginning and made him go outside, taught him how to ride a bike, gave him outside chores or games to do. He became mad at me and told his mother i was a slave driver (an ordinary child response). His dad didn't take the initiative to make him move either. The child also has other problems. He speaks like a Know-it-all and sometimes has a smart alec answer, but I'm not sure he means to (or maybe he does). He has the professor speaking habits that I've read about. He lies constantly about wetting himself even when I'm standing there holding his underwear. He also lies in general conversations making up ridiculous statements to keep from showing that he may not know something. I talked with him the other day about his lying and he admitted that he constantly lies to his parents, teachers and others about everything. He stays in his room all the time, unless we make him come out. His dad has finally noticed the problems. His dad talked with his mother but she doesn't restrict his t.v. or do anything about his wetting himself. I've felt all along that he has symptoms of asperger's, but maybe there is something else that we should consider. (When his dad tried talking to his mom about it a few years back, she would not hear it) I've also seen him have improper emotional reactions. He almost never smiled, laughed or made eye contact for the first few years I knew him. He has an extraordinary vocabulary which seems odd in everyday conversation. I see other children put off by him. He is extremely slow when trying to tie his shoes, putting on clothes or other tasks. I believe he was 10 when he learned to tie his shoe. His motor skills are very weak. He has never been able to do a forward roll. And although he has had a trampoline since he was a toddler, he has a difficult time on one. He has difficulty throwing a ball, and has an awkward gate, especially when he runs. He is a large child both in width and height. He is never hungry when asked and can go all day without eating if left to his own accord. As far as wetting his pants, we've limited tv, taken tv and video games away completely, tried giving rewards, sent him to the bathroom every hour on the hour, talked endlessly to him about it, nothing seems to work. I'm just wondering if anyone else has these same issues, and can give any insight or suggestions.